Friday, October 7, 2011
Protection or Integration?
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During the third call of the telesummit to train empaths, Dr. Caron Goode spoke about creating and maintaining a nurturing relationship with empathic children. This post is a continuation of yesterday’s excerpt from her presentation. If you have a question for Dr. Goode, please leave it as a comment below this article.
Can we really protect ourselves from other people’s feelings if we are hardwired for empathy? Is it true that other negative people shed their feelings and suddenly we take them on? I ask you to clearly look at this thought form within yourself and for kids, because it makes a difference in how you handle your own sensitivity and your gift for empathy. Do you tell them they need protection from the energy of others or are you teaching them oneness through acceptance and integration?
You would have to live in isolation to be protected from sensitive feelings, and some people do. You choose a lifestyle for your sensitivity and that of your kids. Parents of sensitive, emotionally-aware children may choose to raise their child differently in this changing world.
The path of acceptance and integration helps one stretch and adapt. It is the path I choose to teach as a sensitive, healer, spiritual counselor, and coach. No matter what situation, we don’t fight and we are not passive. Rather we are active in noticing or being mindful and shifting focus, attention, or moods. Acceptance and integration has worked for thousands of people in my coaching and counseling practices who desire to learn a simple heartwise© approach. But my thinking is not steeped in Western mindset.
From the Eastern medical philosophies, the underlying biological activity of both our mind and body is the ability to metabolize. Metabolism is a Greek word that literally means integrative transformation. It is the ongoing process by which our body builds and maintains itself, as well as the way in which our mind thinks and processes our thoughts. We are constantly taking in things from the outside world, like food and impressions that impact the senses. Everything we take in must be metabolized, transformed, and integrated into our own systems in order for them to nourish and sustain us. Metabolism accomplishes this.
All living organisms deal with and integrate the natural environment that surrounds them, including the emotional environment. In the eastern viewpoint, emotional management is the key to adapting and metabolizing this earth environment. Our mind and body systems are not programmed to deal with the artificial effects of the chemicals found in food and many substances used in the home and medicines, nor the artificially produced psychological stresses found in many families, schools, and workplaces.
Join us tomorrow on this blog for another segment of Dr. Caron Goode’s discussion on how to support empathic children. To get the full transcript and listen to Caron’s entire presentation as well as the teaching of Suzy Miller, you may purchase the mp3s here:
Dr. Caron Goode is the author of ten books, including her latest: Kids who See Ghosts~ Guide Them Through Their Fear. Dr. Goode graduated with a doctoral degree from George Washington University in 1983 and is a licensed psychotherapist. Formerly a pediatric speech language pathologist, Suzy Miller is the visionary founder of Blue Star Brilliance LLC and author of AWESOMISM: A New Way to Understand the Diagnosis of Autism.