Tuesday, November 29, 2011

How An Empathic Child Can Self-Soothe

by Dr. Caron Goode

Through empathic touch, you teach an intuitive child to trust his sense of feeling and his body’s messages. By pairing touch with empathy you teach the child to calm himself, a trait that every teacher who labels a child hyperactive is seeking. When a child touches his own heart, laying the palm to rest on the chest, he harmonizes his energy and synchronizes the body’s rhythm. He brings chaos to comfort and distractions to center.

Holding your child next to your heart is the most effective way to feel strength. Heart to heart hugs look like cradling the child in your lap, his back to your chest or kneeling down to your child’s level and embracing her heart to yours. Rocking also creates a calm state for younger children. A child can also place his hand on his heart and settle into the feeling of it for several seconds to produce calm.

Tender loving touch is important throughout one’s entire life, especially for the empath. In the developing embryo, a layer of cells called the ectoderm produces the skin and the nervous system. In this concrete physiological connection, touch provides “food” to the nervous system for the human to experience.

Purposeful, empathic touch to regulate and support an empathic child’s physiology tells the nervous system to be resilient and calm.

© 2011 Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, a global online school for training successful, wealthy parenting coaches in home-based businesses. She is the author of fifteen books, including the international best seller, Kids Who See Ghosts, the national award-winner Raising Intuitive Children. See and review all of Dr. Goode’s books here.


Many parents, grandparents, and teachers are guardians of intuitive children. Since many of these adults did not have a spiritually-advanced role model when they were children, they are perplexed when trying to deal with the children of today, who openly exhibit spiritual gifts. The Sid Series is now part of the curriculum for “Fostering Empathic Values for Soulful Living.” There are 12 modules in this class—each one is less than ten minutes. Learn more or sign up at http://live-spirit.com/parenting-classes


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Friday, November 25, 2011

Empowering the Caregiver of Children with Autism

As soon as the awareness of a child with autism clicks in at about age seven or eight, all kinds of things start to unravel and unfold for them. Half of what they have played out or mirrored prior to this age is all of our sadness and guilt that may have come from somebody saying that an autistic child is disordered. That’s not very comforting when this happens to be your child.  If we understand that autistic individuals are new souls trying to take on a human body for the first time, you will realize that they are functioning in a very right brained way for a very good reason. When we realize this, empowerment comes for the parent or the teacher or therapist.  There is a connection made at the level of heart, the level of pure love, without worry. It is beyond what you can see, feel, touch, taste. 
These children have a lot to say about their ability to be here. They will stay very aware and focused on the unseen realm until these other pieces fall into place. Their vibration is much lighter and faster. Diet causes density at a physical level. Some of the things that we take into our physical bodies are very toxic but some of us have learned to adapt. These new individuals have not learned how to adapt.  They are very sensitive to those kinds of things.  Their digestive tracks are very sensitive.  Also it is very difficult for these individuals to connect with somebody who is in a place of fear, worry, concern, or guilt because that energy is very heavy and very dense.  More often than not parents, teachers, therapists, whoever is working with these children note changes when around this type of energy or food substances. 
YOUR TURN: What has your experience been regarding food and autistic children? Do you see a difference when a healthy diet is maintained over a junk food diet?
Join us tomorrow on this blog for another segment of Suzy Miller’s discussion on how to communicate with autistic children.
This post is based on a presentation given during “Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-Sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth.” Suzy Miller is the author of AWESOMISM!:  A New Way to Understand the Diagnosis of Autism. You may obtain the full transcription and MP3 audio of Suzy’s and Dr. Caron Goode’s presentations at http://weare1inspirit.com/spiritual-audios.htm#CaronSuzy. Dr. Goode is the author of ten books, including her latest: Kids who See Ghosts~ Guide Them through Their Fear. She graduated with a doctoral degree from George Washington University in 1983 and is a licensed psychotherapist. 
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Sunday, November 20, 2011

Thought Forms are Tangible Objects to Autistic Children

It is not uncommon for a teacher to have some disgruntled thoughts about the child diagnosed with autism. She or he may be thinking—not even articulating it aloud— “Hmmm, I wish this kid would not come to school today because he’s really difficult to deal with.” You know the thoughts that we keep in the privacy of our own mind sometimes.  But an individual, who is very energy sensitive or energetically aware, can sense or even hear this thought even after the teacher is no longer in the room. It could have been the day before, but that thought form is still lingering in the classroom.
Thought forms are actually tangible to somebody who is accessing that level of information.  So the child comes into the room and doesn’t want to be there. He may even feel a little hostility as he senses this negative energy. He may start clinging to his mother’s leg, not wanting her to leave because he’s is in the midst of this uncomfortable energy. If we understand this, we can use this to our benefit in creating lovely thought-filled balanced environments so these children are excited to come in and see what might be in front of them for that day. I don’t think most of us really grasp this concept even when we are seeing them energetically or when we can feel them and their presence. We have a tendency to still be a little bit out of the scope of where these kids actually are. 
Suzy Miller is the author of AWESOMISM: A New Way to Understand the Diagnosis of Autism. After a 22-year career as a pediatric speech language pathologist, Suzy met a four-year old child diagnosed with autism who was destined to change not only the way she viewed autism, but life in general. She says, “I’ve had a lot of individuals who work energetically with this population and a lot of times they will say to me, “There’s so much negativity. There’s so much heaviness.  There so much this or that.” And actually that is accurate but only to a point. This population absorbs and reflects energy. They are mirrors of energy—especially those who are nonverbal. Sometimes this is the only way they can show or express what they are experiencing. They mirror not necessarily what is physically going on in the physical environment but what is going energetically in the environment.
This creates a huge shift in consciousness when we understand that we have an individual sitting right in front of us who is giving us a brilliant read out of the more subtle aspects of ourselves.  We miss these things all the time in our day-in day-out experience. When we hang out with these individuals, they are right there showing us whether our energy is calm or frenetic, when we are chaotic or sad.  They are able to monitor that. 
When you look at these individuals energetically you will most often see the band of energy around them. That is the mirror.  These individuals don’t have a lot of their own karmic baggage or a lot of their own patterns needing to be released.  As a matter of fact, when I look at these children through the eyes of pure essence and I see who these kids really are, I notice they have a very difficult time getting into their physical bodies.  Many of these children have not had a physical human experience on Earth before so they don’t have a lot of history to bring with them.  Thus they become very clear and beautiful mirrors.  I know this to be true because every time this awareness is brought to the caregiver, parent, or teacher these adults are able to adjust their own thoughts and behavior and the behavior in the child stops immediately. 
These children tell me frequently that just like most empaths are able to pick up the energy in their environment and sometimes put it into their bodies; these children do that as well.  But they do not put it into their left brained mental process. As soon as an experience is over, it’s over for them. We as the parent or caregiver may feel that the child is upset so we try to fix the problem. What ends up happening is that we add energy to the upset as we keep projecting thought and emotion while trying to fix the upset. The minute we stop trying to fix the upset, the child stops being upset because there’s nothing to mirror at that point.  I can’t tell you how many times that I as a speech language pathologist have watched a child’s behavior change as he or she goes from my presence to a parent’s presence, or go from their teacher’s presence to the presence of a child in the classroom. There is a different interaction—a different energy communication—in each scenario because they are mirroring what they sense in each scenario. 
The communication is very difficult for them up until that time period. 
YOUR TURN: Have you seen this mirroring take place with autistic children? If you work with this population, please leave a comment to let us know if you have tried observing a child with autism change behavior from the presence of one person to another.
Join us tomorrow on this blog for another segment of Suzy Miller’s discussion on how to communicate with autistic children.
This post is based on a presentation given during “Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-Sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth” during which Suzy presented “Autism: A Positive Step in Human Evolution.” Suzy Miller is the author of AWESOMISM!:  A New Way to Understand the Diagnosis of Autism. You may obtain the full transcription and MP3 audio of Suzy’s and Dr. Caron Goode’s presentations at http://weare1inspirit.com/spiritual-audios.htm#CaronSuzy. Dr. Goode is the author of ten books, including her latest: Kids who See Ghosts~ Guide Them through Their Fear. She graduated with a doctoral degree from George Washington University in 1983 and is a licensed psychotherapist. 


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Tuesday, November 15, 2011

The Heart –Stabilizing Solution for Empathic Children

by Dr. Caron Goode

“Heart Math’s findings point to the human heart as playing a key role in the intuitive process, and a recent study concludes the heart actually receives intuitive information faster than the brain— by a second or slightly more.”

Meantime, the empathic intuitive reads people’s emotions clearly, senses the underlying feelings and scans body language and facial features for congruence. What the empath tunes into may be comfortable or not, which underlies the need for emotional management skills for intuitive, empathic children.

Neuroscience has mapped how the whole brain processes information in four ways: feeling, sensing, intuition and thinking. New research from the psychology of heart transplants has shown us how intelligent hearts are emotional centers and make intelligent decisions for our comfort.

Empathic children can use this understanding to their benefit.

The heart and brain connection starts in-utero. From fetal heart cells grows a neural tube. The brain develops on the other end. Our heart grows connections with the brain and central nervous system and they communicate with each other constantly.

An intuitive child or parent can use the heart energy to gauge clarity of their feelings and how to interpret them.

 A calming exercise is a physical activity like breathing or a mental exercise like visualization that helps one relax.

 Calming is a basic survival skill, an absolute must-have tool, for an intuitive child, especially the empath. An intuitive listens to intuition best when calm, not rushed. A creative child learns best when he can focus calmly.

 A calm heart has a soothing influence on the brain and the whole central nervous system. Intuitive children can calm anxiety, excitation, or distraction easily. The following three strategies provide a calming influence and help an intuitive parent or child to focus better.

 Place their right palms on their chests and breathe slowly for several minutes. When they feel the neck and shoulders relax, they’ve arrived!

 Touching the heart, imagine an elevator in their heads. They enter the elevator when the doors open, push the heart-shaped button, and feel the movement down through the throat into the chest. The doors open, they step out into their heart and remain there in silence for a while.

 As a parent, teach your child to find answers in his heart and his head. Show him that logic and intuition are not opposites. As a teacher, Caron gathered large, flat river stones, and the students in her class either wrote or drew a head on one side and heart on the other. When they had to make a personal choice about studies or peer or family matters, they turned the stone face up on either side, and asked their head or heart as designated. They got to explore two answers: the logical and the intuitive, and then discussed options. This proactive way to help solve a problem is easily used by teachers or parents.

For further information, check out Raising Intuitive Children.

Many parents, grandparents, and teachers are guardians of intuitive children. Since many of these adults did not have a spiritually-advanced role model when they were children, they are perplexed when trying to deal with the children of today, who openly exhibit spiritual gifts. The Sid Series is now part of the curriculum for “Fostering Empathic Values for Soulful Living.” There are 12 modules in this class—each one is less than ten minutes. Learn more or sign up at http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit


Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, a global online school for training successful, wealthy parenting coaches in home-based businesses. She is the author of fifteen books, including the international best seller, Kids Who See Ghosts, the national award-winner Raising Intuitive Children. See and review all of Dr. Goode’s books here.

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Saturday, November 12, 2011

Divorced Parenting of Empathic Children

Due to divorce and joint custody arrangements, many children live in two environments. One may be orderly and calm. The other may be haphazard and chaotic. What is done with children in one home can carry over to the other. If one parent understands the empathic child’s sensitivity and the other doesn’t, it can create a huge discordant problem for the empathic child.
In working with parents who are separated or working out a divorce plan for their families, one parent might feed the child sugar and junk food and then send them to the other parent where it takes quite literally a week to help the child change their behavior and get back on course again.  It is imperative that parents teach their children how to take care of their own energy.  For example, there was one child high on the autism spectrum, who went to his father’s where he was teased for his sensitivity. He would go to bed in tears.  He wet the bed and the problem continued to escalate. The mom was a very savvy and smart woman, so rather than keeping him in the victim mode she quickly taught him resilience.  She taught him how to strip the bed before he could be teased.  She taught him how to wash his own sheets and make his bed again before they would jump on him for doing something wrong.  She basically taught him how to take care of himself and he did a very good job.  Definitely being in a home environment where there are emotional connections requires some very specific management. 
Join us tomorrow on this blog for another segment of Dr. Caron Goode’s discussion on how to support empathic children. To get the full transcript and listen to Caron’s entire presentation as well as the teaching of Suzy Miller, you may purchase the mp3s here:
Dr. Caron Goode is the author of ten books, including her latest: Kids who See Ghosts~ Guide Them Through Their Fear. Dr. Goode graduated with a doctoral degree from George Washington University in 1983 and is a licensed psychotherapist.  Formerly a pediatric speech language pathologist, Suzy Miller is the visionary founder of Blue Star Brilliance LLC and author of AWESOMISM: A New Way to Understand the Diagnosis of Autism.



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Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Helping An Empathic Child Restore Strength

by Caron Goode

“A resilient child does not need all these features to be resilient, but one (set of skills) is not enough. Resilience results from a combination of these features.”

The International Resilience Project put forth A Guide to Promoting Resilience in Children: Strengthening the Human Spirit. In this book, the author, Goldberg, suggests that children can draw from three sources of resilience. The first is to know what is available to them. The second resource is their inner personal skills, and the third resource is the action they can take. The three resources are reflected in statements for each category:

I HAVE represents what is available in their environment.
I AM statements reflect the child’s resources.
I CAN statements represent what the child could do, what action feels right.

I HAVE
 A big brother who supports me and loves me.
 My dog, Max, who sleeps on my bed when I feel upset.
 My family who love me.

I AM
 A sensitive person who likes to help others.
 Happy most of the time
 Willing to be responsible for what I do

I CAN
 Share my feeling with my parents when I am overwhelmed.
 Shift my moods from sad to happy
 Take ten deep breaths to calm down and focus.

For further information, check out Raising Intuitive Children.

Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, a global online school for training successful, wealthy parenting coaches in home-based businesses. She is the author of fifteen books, including the international best seller, Kids Who See Ghosts, the national award-winner Raising Intuitive Children. See and review all of Dr. Goode’s books here.


Many parents, grandparents, and teachers are guardians of intuitive children. Since many of these adults did not have a spiritually-advanced role model when they were children, they are perplexed when trying to deal with the children of today, who openly exhibit spiritual gifts. The Sid Series is now part of the curriculum for “Fostering Empathic Values for Soulful Living.” There are 12 modules in this class—each one is less than ten minutes. Learn more or sign up at http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit

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